10 Ways To Enjoy Being a Mom
- Start celebrating REAL Motherhood. Begin by acknowledging the challenges of being a mom but the joy of raising up a new generation that is going to make a positive difference in the world. It’s a change in language and perspective that’ll take work—because it is counter-cultural.
- Instead of looking to coffee to get you through the day—develop a habit of seeking first the One who gives you strength and wisdom for your day. When you are seeking the Lord daily, something really incredible happens. He draws near to you. It’s not a question, it’s a promise. His Word says so (James 4:8).
- You can wear yoga pants—for days if you want to… But, you might be missing out on the benefits of “getting dressed” for the day. Studies have shown that “when workers wear nicer clothes, they achieve more.”1
- God chose you and guides you. It’s no mistake that you are a mom. God chose you to be a mom to your kids—whether you are a foster mom, step mom, biological mom, adoptive mom, grand-mom, or even a god-mother.
You don’t have to question whether you are a good mom. Since He chose you, He also guides you and promises in His Word that He has given you everything you need in life. It’s in His Presence there is fullness of joy. (Psalm 16:11)
- The Perfect mom doesn’t exist—and you know it. You can read more about that in How To Be Your Best (not perfect) and Love Your Life As a Mom.
- Sweet mom—just like your kids’ needs matter—so do yours. “Self care is more than a pedicure”—Molly Pittman. It is taking care of your whole self regularly.
Think of ways that you can give yourself time—to think, dream, and discover the ways that you are telling yourself about yourself. What is true? How is God working in your life? What things really make you, as a person, and as a mom come alive? Write those things done.
Take time to practice this on a regular basis then take it a step further—schedule those times in your calendar. Don’t wait for when you “get around to it” because it always seem like as a mom you never have enough time.
- Find your tribe! Don’t stay in isolation. Look for another group of moms that you can learn from and lean on. As moms, we’re better together. If you’re a mom of young kiddos, a great place to find moms is at a local MOPs group If you have kids in school, another option is Moms In Prayer.
- Receive ALL kinds of thank you. Thank you, can be found in other places than words. Sometimes thank you is your husband putting gas in your car. Or it’s the look on a person’s face when your child says thank you to them at the grocery store.
- Look at the mundane differently. Mundane tasks aren’t just about having everything in order. It’s really one of the greatest influences you have as a mom. You are developing character and integrity in your kids on a daily basis.
It teaches your children about perseverance and stewardship—and instills a good work ethic. You are showing them how to be grateful for the basic needs and for all of the blessings God gives us.
Although it’s something that feels like it never ends—the benefits of your hard “mundane” work lasts a lifetime. Read more in my post, Breaking the Cycle of Monotony in Motherhood For Good.
- Give yourself permission to dream for yourself and your family. You are more than “just a mom.” When your kids are grown and out of the house—what do you want for them to be able to do? What will life look like for you? Your marriage? What is that something that you’ve always wanted to do? You should go do it.
My husband started encouraging me in this area, but one of the biggest helps for me has been PowerSheets. It’s an intentional goal planner that has helped me to re–awaken dreams and to make them happen.
It’s Hard Being a Mom But Good
My friend Carmen from MarriedByHisGrace.com, recently shared from her heart the REAL face of motherhood. Here’s her story in her own words:
My biggest struggle is asking God waaaayyyy too many times, “Whhhyyyy Goooodddd, Why me?! Why am I a stay at home mom? If I was meant for this then why do I feel clueless and not always fulfilled? If I was truly meant for this task, then why do I get flustered from crying kids and messes in the house?
Why is being a mom mean I get to eat dinner cold, or I got to get a baby sitter over to take a private shower, or I going to the store means with 5 kids or when by myself, pressure to hurry home in case the kids are crying too much. The list of my why’s can seem long and overwhelming. Even discouraging to any mom.
The Bigger Picture of Being a Mom
Truth is I do get discouraged in my own capabilities and contentment as a mother. I feel ungrateful sometimes and throw adult tantrums for alone time and understanding from others that I have a hard job that never allows you to clock out (Even when my husband’s tries so hard to hold me and tell me he does understand) I even plain out pout that MOTHERHOOD is hard but thank God….
It’s My Choice