It was time to get ready to go back to school.
Anxiety and a New Season
A Pile of Bricks
1. Figure out what matters most to you and why.
2. Look for ways to turn tasks into tangible thanks.
I didn’t feel like I was doing that well—at all. It took me a few years, but I started telling myself that I get to make his lunch not that I have to make it.
When I focused on the fact that I was blessing him so he didn’t have to make it, it became a joy for me. I started to get more creative and surprise him by dropping in little love notes or cards.
The task of making his lunch became an opportunity for me to show him I was thankful for him working hard for our family. This was a tangible way for me to show him that I loved him and appreciated him.
3. Choose to embrace flexibility so others can have fun.
If we understand why we are doing the tasks or what is driving the control, it gives us the opportunity to embrace flexibility and let others discover and have fun. But, it’s a choice to surrender control—to focus on why—more than the tasks.
Anxiety or excitement? Did you know, it’s a choice?
I remember a time that I joined a friend and her family on a weekend trip to their cottage.
The cottage was about an hour away from the Straits of Mackinac and one day we decided to drive in to St. Ignace for the afternoon. We watched the ferries from Mackinac Island come and go into the docks and we took a leisurely stroll along main street.
I’ll never forget what happened the moment we walked into a souvenir store.
My friend’s grandchildren quickly surrounded a display that had just about every color and flavor of rock candy you could imagine.
My friend’s daughter, who had two children, let her kids pick out whatever flavor they wanted. Her daughter–in–law, who also had two children, was quick to jump in and pick out the white colored rock candy.
That day we came out of the shop with two kids who had seemingly clean faces and sticky hands and two kids with purple and red stains all over their clothes and their faces lit up with the biggest smiles.
Same shop. Same ages of kids. Different experiences simply because one mom chose excitement and one mom chose anxiety.