Fearless? I was far from it as I looked down at the little square gift in my hands.
Does this little box have a diamond in it or is it something else?
It was my birthday—two days before Christmas. My boyfriend had asked my parents for their permission to marry me, but I didn’t know when he would propose.
If this is the ring—I’m engaged! But, why did he do it this way? I was afraid that this would be my engagement—and I had dreamed of a completely different story.
Stuck in the moment, I was more fearful of the unknown rather than embracing the present—a gift wrapped with love.
How to be Fearless When You Face the Unknown
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1. Check Your Focus.
Are you focusing on the unknown or the One who knows everything?
How can you know this?
“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God (literally “is God-breathed”), and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)
You can let go of the how by continuing to transform your mind with His Word. By doing this—your mind is becoming more like Christ and less like the world.
Don’t know where to start for yourself? Read more in my recent post, Why I Make Time to Read the Most Important Book Every Day.
2. Be Fearless By Resisting the Devil.
How to Recognize the Truth From a Lie
“Why would you want to do that?”
Attacking your identity may have similar themes:
“You’re not smart enough.”
“You’re too weak.”
How to Actively Resist the Devil
The apostle Paul gives first level practical tools to combat these lies.
In Ephesians he tells us to take up the armor of God. You can do this by specifically praying Ephesians 6:10-18 over yourself.
He encourages a renewing of the mind in Romans 12:2.
You can do this by replacing those lies with the truth by practicing biblical self talk, reading, meditating and memorizing God’s Word.
If you resist the devil and his lies—he will flee from you (James 4:7). To learn more about biblical self talk, read my post Are You Flourishing in the Strength of a Renewed Mind?
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Use the acronym H.A.L.T. to ask yourself a few questions. These will help to determine if there are factors that are contributing to your fear that explain it and help you to regain focus.
H – Are you hungry?
A – Are you angry?
L – Do you feel lonely?
T – Are you tired?
4. Take a Fear Timeout.
Everyone is busy—life is busy. Culture doesn’t regularly take breaks unless forced to do so. Many Americans don’t even take their paid vacations!
Although, it would be better if you took breaks before this happens, when you do feel this way, recognize it for what it is. Breaks can be vacations or 15 minutes!
5. Look at the Big Picture.
Zig Ziglar used to say, fear is nothing more than false evidence appearing real.
Sometimes the gift of peace is in not knowing all the details. Other times we know what is real, but we allow fear to distract us from a clear vision.
This is the view I had yesterday. I can’t see more than a few feet. The fog is thick and it appears to be a very tangible wall.
I know differently though. I know that beyond those trees is our beloved lake.There are days when you can feel like you’re in a fog. Although you know God gives you hope for a future, these foggy times won’t let you see what is coming.
Get frustrated, get anxious, or you can turn to the One who tells you the truth—what is real.
He leads you besides quiet waters, restores your soul and gives you His Word—a lamp unto your feet and a light unto your path.
Even though you can not see at times, you can choose to walk by faith. He is with you and He is your Rock. You will not be shaken. In 2 Timothy 1:7 it says, For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. (NLT)
You will face many unknowns in your life. Unknowns never go away, but what makes or breaks you is how you respond to it.
Face your fears with confidence and stand fearless by acknowledging your fear and claiming what is true.
Are you facing something right now that is unknown?
Do you long to marry, want a career change, or are you unsure of a health situation?
No matter your circumstance—be strong and courageous.
Stand fearless in the face of the unknown.
God is with you wherever you are.
He’s not confined to a box. He has so much more for you than you can even imagine.
The Square Box
My boyfriend did give me a ring and we will be celebrating our five year anniversary this May. The ring—wasn’t in the square gift box that he gave me on my birthday. Instead, he planned an engagement story that I love to tell. But, that is an entirely different story for an entirely different time.