The air was filled with endless chatter of other moms, meanwhile I sat in my chair feeling all alone. I didn’t know anyone. My son was three months old. I was a new mom. I had always dreamed of being a wife and mom and here I was “living the dream”. But, it sure didn’t feel like it to me. No sleep, monotonous days, and I felt like I was surviving on coffee. All that morning I kept hearing other women reassuringly say, “That’s normal. Welcome to motherhood!”
I was weary, my mind was foggy, and I clutched my hot cup of coffee for a sense of security. The speaker for the day took the mic and I wondered what this woman had to say to me that would give me some sense of hope. Her topic? Bringing the fun back to mothering.
I felt like her words slapped me upside the head and knocked me right side up. Tears started to well up in my eyes because I had forgotten my dream. For the past three months I was feeling defeated and overwhelmed and even those around me said it was normal to feel this way. But, what this speaker, a seasoned mom herself, reminded me is that’s simply not the truth. Motherhood includes what seems like endless loads of laundry and dishes, but real motherhood is really what I always dreamed about—it was fun.
Maybe that’s you. You had a dream. Then life happened.
If you captured your thoughts for a day, you might even catch yourself saying something like,
“I just didn’t know it was like this really.”
“It wasn’t meant to be.”
“It’s just the way life is.”
“I’m just….fill in the blank…so I can’t.”
The problem is that while we are telling ourselves how we can’t do something or be something the dream we have gets lost in the negative noise of life.
We start to focus more on what we feel like we have to do—instead of what we get to do. As a result, frustration, anxiety, and feeling of overwhelm happen because there is a disconnect with what we dream and our behavior.
But, it doesn’t have to be that way. You can get done what you have to do and live your dream.
Have To or Get To
Yesterday, my son who is now 3, woke up at 4:30 in the morning when his dad woke up to get ready for the day. It was like the energizer bunny had just taken over my son! He had so much energy. Me on the other hand, not–so–much. I was tired and lethargic and was craving my sleep and that didn’t seem like it was going to happen anytime soon.
Now, if I were to focus on the fact that I was tired and let myself get all bent out of shape because of things I couldn’t control, I would’ve missed the best part of this story. I had a choice—have to or get to.
What happened is a beautiful memory that I will treasure because of what I chose.
I got to watch my husband light up as my son interacted with him before he went to work. You see, yesterday was going to be a challenging day for my husband. After 20 years with his current company, he was interviewing for a new job with a different company. Yet, my husband’s day started out awesome for him because my son made his morning. These moments are what my dream is all about—but I could easily have let the inconvenience of life and the “UGH! Why is he up this early? I’m so tired and I have to be up with my son” thoughts hijack my life.
You Were Made For More
Life will happen and you have a choice—have to or get to.
You were made for more and you dream about it. At the start of the day you wake up hoping for a great day. What that great day looks like is very specific and unique—to you. Your dream is wired into the very fibre of your soul—a longing for life to be meaningful, happy, and fulfilling.
Life will happen and when it does, you can focus on the get to—on your dream. It is possible and I can help.
You Have a Dream
I share with you a positive voice offering insights to help your nurture your dream. I’ll share encouragement for strengthening your faith, marriage, children, home and how to better care for yourself.
Through positive thinking and purposeful living, I believe you will:
- Feel energized and refreshed, when you wake up in the morning.
- Be truly grateful and get excited about the opportunities that life offers you.
- Feel like you’re strong and confident both emotionally and mentally for the hard things in life.
You have a dream—let’s bring it back to life, together.
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